1.2 Where Does Self-Esteem Come From?

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Even though we will address some of the reasons for low self-esteem in this section, it is important to remember that whatever’s happened in your past, you are a capable adult now. Your self-esteem depends on your actions, and this program is an excellent first step.

I feel that there is something missing here - we don't explain why we suddenly mention upbringing here - it comes more or less without context.

First, we need to introduce the idea that there might be several different reasons for low self-esteem - and we need to tell the users that now we'll list a few common ones and not all will fit for you.

Next: we need to adapt each topic more so that it fits the topic - for example "Upringing" just jumps right into parenting-styles. We need some introduction, like "for some, the way we were raised contributes to low self-esteem in later years. Below you can see typical parenting styles and what those might lead to.".

There are 4 main parenting styles and each has an impact on the child’s self-esteem. 

Strict parents, who are constantly in charge of their children’s lives, without much consideration. For the child, this may lead to low self-esteem and low self-efficacy, as well as self-blame, guilt, and anger.

Parents who set rules and requirements, but are also understanding, warm, accepting, and loving. The children often become confident, self-reliant, and sociable.

Accommodating parents, who are overly accepting and provide few rules or structure. Although the children usually have high self-esteem, their academic/professional performance and social functioning may suffer.

Uninvolved parents, who are detached from the child’s life, and may be dismissive of the child’s emotions. For the children, this leads to a feeling of worthlessness, poor social functioning, and a fear of being unlovable.

Each of the points below are too shallow, in my opinion. We should help explain a bit more. Try to look at the depression or anxiety-program how such lists were solved - often with just the right amount of information and good way of explaining it, I think :)

The way other people, such as teachers and siblings, treat a child, also has a significant impact on the child’s self-esteem.

Health issues may diminish a person’s self-esteem unless they are handled with care and self-awareness.

Traumatic events, whether they have occurred in early life or later on, can also shape a person’s self-esteem.

The culture you’ve been raised in, as well as society’s expectations of people from your gender, social class, etc., can also influence how you feel about yourself.

Bullying is an important issue, which could significantly decrease a person’s self-esteem and even lead to fatal consequences. Remember that bullying doesn’t just happen to children at school – adults can also become victims.

Lately, social media has been an area of interest, when it comes to self-esteem. Since people tend to share mostly positive events and feelings on social media, you might feel less successful, happy, interesting, and sociable in comparison. This is a skewed comparison, which may have a negative impact on one’s self-esteem. 1

You've learned about some of the main factors that have an impact on self-esteem and you then investigated the origins of your own self-esteem. This is very good! Just remember that whatever may have happened in your past, you are fully capable of improving your self-esteem now.

I think we shouldn't say "Good job" / "Good work" lastly on each node - it feels a bit too much in my opinion (I know I said differently before) - it kind of feels a bit dishonest to me. I would say it is more aproriate to say this between each part, than for each little node).

Also, I am not very much a fan of the last part summary "what you've learned" or "next up, you'll get info about (...)". I think it is better to conclude with a small tip, for example: "This might get you thinking how you got low self-esteem? It often takes a while to pinpoint were it all started. If there are situation were you feel a drop in self-esteem, you might want to ask yourself if there were similar situations in your past where something happened to you? For example you might have been scolded or ridiculed in a similar situation earlier on."

  1. Denti, L., Nilsson, I., Barbopoulos, I., Holmberg, L., Thulin, M., Wendeblad, M., … Davidsson, E. Sweden’s Largest Facebook Study: A Survey of 1,000 Swedish Facebook Users. Gothenburg Research Institute, April 2, 2012. 

Again, please avoid references like this - I don't think it is interesting to users who just want better self esteem :) We want the program to be as light/easy as possible :)